My first attempt at blogging.
Published on August 19, 2004 By Beaver Chick In Personal Relationships
I made a huge mistake last week. I talked to a guy my friend told me not to. She is completely in love with him, and she didn't want me to speak with him unless she was arround to monitor the conversation. I just wanted to get to know him...this guy who so easily won my best friend's affections. I wanted to see what kind of guy he was and i was interested in how he felt about my dearest friend.
Now, though, it seems as if I made a terrible mistake. My friendship with the most wonderful person I've ever known has been changed...in the blink of an eye. I don't know what to do or how to fix what I've done. My friend and I now have a huge wieght hanging over our relationship.
I've apologized, and I explained that my motives were purely innocent, but things have definitely changed. I don't think anything will ever be the same for me and my dearest friend. It sucks that I can't take back what I did with the purest motives. I wish I could just go back in time and change it. I love my friend like a sister, but I may have screwed our friendship up forever.

Comments
on Aug 19, 2004
Beaver: But what I am confused about is aren't true friend's supposed to be all-understanding and above all trusting. If she trusted you well, why was she wary of you meeting her boyfriend 'unchaperoned' by her in the first place?

Sounds funny to me.
on Aug 19, 2004
No offense, but your friend is a bit of a control freak. The idea of her controlling who you can and can't talk to is a disturbing dynamic in your relationship.

If she is so insecure as to not have confidence in her relationship with this man, perhaps she isn't mature enough to be in such a relationship.

Just my two cents.
on Aug 19, 2004
What were her true motives in keeping you away from him, is it insecurity, jealousy or possibly shame or embarrassment? There is more to the story I believe. Get down to the root of the problem, take care of it and move on.
on Aug 29, 2004
I'm not sure so much if maybe she was insecure...but I don't really think that you could really say that she is not a control freak. She's just wierd about stuff like that. She is definitely not ashamed or embarrassed. I really think that these comments are funny, because you guys are saying stuff that is totally not her...don't get me wrong, I appreciate your comments. It's really funny, I think that you all said she might be insecure or wary, because she is definitely not any of those. And, she totally trusts me, she's just wierd about it. She's cool, though, and we got things worked out. Thanks for all of your insight.